“I really don’t think you know what you’re getting yourself into here.” -Sam Hodges-
Sam has a pint of Guinness with his cigar every night at the same Pub, so you go in, hoping to gain some useful information before your next trip. Carefully, you approach him at the bar and ask if you can buy his next Guinness. You casually mention you’ve got a little trip planned and you hoped he might have some advice on what to expect. Sam asks “Would you like to take a quiz, to see if you’re ready for that little trip?
Sam – “Tatyana agrees to meet you for dinner, but says she lives far from the city center and asks if you don’t mind helping her pay for her taxi to come and meet you. How do you respond?”
Sam – “Katya says “welcome to my city…” in a whatsapp chat, says she is finishing work and will meet you for an early dinner, about 5:30pm, because she says she is having a very busy week at work and is tired and wants to go home early tonight. You’re naturally frustrated because you had plans for the entire evening with her, and you just traveled a long way to see her, but how do you respond?”
Sam – “You have been texting Anastasia (one of your many dates you are lining up) for a few days since landing and she never replies quickly and seems quite distant, but she is oh soooo beautiful in her profile photos and high on your list of girls to meet… she finally responds and says she can meet you for dinner tonight in the center, but that she is shy to speak English and is afraid she will make mistakes. She asks if she can bring her friend who speaks perfect English to help us. How do you respond?”
Sam – “Tonight your first date with Nomi is starting off almost perfect! She is on time, looking good, smiling, talkative, and you think this is going to be a great evening. You meet in the center and begin to walk together and seem to have a real connection (this is the perfect beginning to all 1st dates by the way). As you begin to talk about dinner Nomi suggests a restaurant that you know is crazy expensive. How do you respond?”
Sam – “You have been waiting all day for your exciting first date with Carmen tonight. You have communicated with her ‘on and off’ for over 6 weeks and you have dozens of her photos so you know she will be looking good. Then sadly, at 5pm you receive a text that says she must work late tonight and is very sorry, she cannot meet you. Says she will call you later to check on you.” What message do you send in reply?
Sam – “You have been communicating with Tatyana for several months, she is maybe your favorite girl heading into this trip and the one you had the highest hopes for. Over dinner she casually mentions how much fun she is having, but she can’t meet you tomorrow. Says she will try to take off work the next day to spend the whole day with you… you smile and say sure, no problem. Then she asks, “What will you do tomorrow, will you go on other dates?” Oooops! What rules have you broken?
Sam – “You’ve just had your 1st dinner date with Katya, the evening was really nice and you are excited to see her again. She says she is going to a club later tonight with a girlfriend and asks if you want to join them. You think to yourself, this sounds expensive! But it also sounds like too much fun, so of course you say YES! From that moment at 10pm until 3am when you leave the club, what is your mission?
Sam – “You are in Kiev about a week and things are going good. You have met 2 girls you really like but their schedules are a little difficult and you find yourself with nothing going on tomorrow. You have a contact in Chernigov (140km from Kiev) and she has told you to come any day you want, she will be free for you. So you text her and she readily agrees to meet you tomorrow. What do you need to do now, immediately?
Sam – “You meet a nice beautiful girl online and it seems she is perfectly what you are looking for, in every way. She seems nice and sweet even, she immediately goes into Category 1. After a couple weeks and a nice 20 minute skype date, you start to discuss your upcoming travel schedule and your desire to come and meet her. She seems enthusiastic, but tells you her city is very boring and she wants some new and exciting emotions with you, so she recommends you both meet in Paris or Amsterdam? What do you say?
Sam – “You have settled on just 1 girlfriend, and you are happy & not dating anyone else. You have seen her for a couple weeks, just dating casually in her city. Now you are home and ready to come and see her again and hopefully take the relationship to the next lever, emotionally and physically. What is your plan for making that happen? – END-
After you check the correct the answers in your email, please enter Sam’s Library and start with Chapter 1. You can choose any subjects that interest you, but Sam’s chapters are ideally ready in chronological order.